A few years ago, I gave up an amazing career opportunity
to follow my boyfriend to another state.
The relationship became a disaster.
I was miserable.
I hated my new job.
I felt like such a failure
I’ve had similar ‘failures’ more than a few times.
There is one thing I’ve noticed about all of these ‘failures’…
there’s something about them that, once I’ve gone through
and the numbness
… something opens up.
I start thinking about new things, in a new way.
I discover new possibilities, new people, a new way of seeing the world.
If you’re going through something right now..
If it feels like your life isn’t going ‘as planned’…
understand that there’s momentum building underneath the surface.
You have been in an ‘old groove’ of doing things a certain way – being with certain people.
And because you’re an evolving, expanding being,
there’s a bigger part of you trying to get to a ‘new groove’.
It takes energy to move yourself into a ‘new groove’.
The only way to get this energy is to slowly build it over time
– or sometimes, when something ‘bad’ happens
(a break-up, a rejection, an argument), this creates a sharp moment of contrast
of what you want and don’t want
– and that contrast can actually spark so much extra energy
(in the form of ‘emotions’ – literally, ‘energy in motion’)…
all of those feelings are adding fuel to your being.
And this is what you need to push yourself up from the deeper, ‘old groove’
and launch you to the new one.
(in the brain, we see it as ‘old neural networks’ that need something totally new
to happen in your mind in order to spark growth of ‘new networks’).
Pain and frustration are key ingredients that make those new networks happen.
So instead of seeing a setback or failure,
see a perfectly ordered disruption, designed to push you down
so that the energy you gain as you get back up launches you into a new ‘groove’ of reality.
Do you have an example of a time where something seemed like a failure, but something new and better ended up happening instead?
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