What matters is not how things are, but how they interact.
– Carlo Rovelli, theoretical physicist, in his book, Reality is Not What It Seems
What does ‘relational’ mean?
it is often defined as, “concerning the way in which two or more people or things are connected.”
‘Relationality’ describes the fact that everything that we perceive as ‘reality’ only exists because of interactions.
As Rovelli puts it,
“there is no reality except in the relations of physical systems.”
Why am I bringing this up?
Because something I see again and again when I hear people talk about learning, intelligence, ‘boosting your brain’, growth mindset…
is that they COMPLETELY IGNORE the importance of relationships.
As human beings, we simply CANNOT get around the fact that our mind-brain-body systems are built through the interactions that shape us.
Relationships are the key to building our most powerful mind.
The relationship between knowledge seeker and knowledge source.
The relationship between what we learn here and how it applies over there.
And our very first relationships with our caregivers and how profoundly that affects how our brain architecture gets built.
Our relationships with others build up beliefs, ‘cellular memory’, and perceptions within our minds that either help us believe we can learn more and reach for our highest heights, or deflate us into settling for repetition and low expectations of what we’re capable of.
“It is only in interactions that nature draws the world.” – Carlo Rovelli
In the final episode of Season 1, I re-cap the 5 key takeaways of the previous 11 episodes:
#1 Trust & authenticity first. I give you a ‘sneak preview’ of some of the topics I’m covering in season 2, such as ‘neural synchrony’ and how we can ‘be on the same wavelength -literally – with someone else (with social neuroscientist Caroline Szymansky)
#2 Don’t just focus on the brain. “Peak experiences” enhance learning. I explain how.
#3 Be in a constant state of learning and leaving your comfort zone.
#4 Don’t get stuck on catchphrases. If you’re explaining how to ‘celebrate mistakes’, you need to experiment and become a beginner again to know how to authentically model this to others.
#5 Conditions and environment matter. I give you a tiny review of sound and acoustics, as well as play and other factors that lower defensiveness and boost openness to learning.